Smile...

So, does anyone watch "Glee"? It took me awhile to get into it, but I like it. It is silly, sometimes sweet, and usually funny. I digress though, in one of the most recent episodes they sang a song, Smile written by the great Charlie Chaplin. Now I had no idea that he did anything but act silly on the screen, and I have never liked this song really, but I love the arrangement they sang on Glee.


It is one of those songs though that makes you get really contemplative and thoughtful. You know those, you just want to turn them on so you will sit and think. Some songs you want to listen to when you are sad, sometimes (And I know most guys won’t understand this.) but sometimes just to let yourself feel sad, to wallow for a moment so you can move on. Just to show you what a t.v. addict I am and to illustrate my point about just feeling sad sometimes, there is an episode of “Everybody loves Raymond” in which Ray peeks in the window to find Deborah sitting on the couch crying. He of course is sure something horrible is wrong. Later he confronts her about it and, first of all, is mad at him for spying on her, and second explains to him that sometimes women just need to have a good cry. He is baffled, understandably so from his point of view. However, there is some truth to this, though this was a bit exaggerated in my opinion. We women feel though, we feel deeply, and though sometimes it is a pain, we relish in those feelings and invite the opportunities to express each of those feelings. Maybe this is why women, as science has proven, have the need to express more words per day than men do. This is possibly, why you seem to find many more amateur women bloggers then male.

Back to my original point of this post, the song “Smile”. It talks about smiling even when life is hard. Which is exactly my point, most of us take the time to cry for a minute, wipe our eyes, and then move on. You put a smile on your face, you live life, and you simply move on.

It doesn’t mean that you don’t feel sad about something bad that has happened, it means you simply continue to live life, you find something good in it, and you live.

When bad things have happened to me in my life, people have commented that I handle it so well. I don’t always, I take my moments to cry, rant, and even lose it. Then I put that smile back on and continue on with life. It doesn’t make everything go away, it doesn’t fix everything, but it does help. You could continue to wallow, to answer with a monologue when people ask how you are, but to what end?

Lars knows, he deals with my bad moments (or days) and he is there for me through it. We all cry our buckets of tears, the tears wash away a bit of the saddness, enough to continue on. They take off the edge. Lars is there for that everytime. And he still loves me after, and that helps me too.

So this was kind of an all over the place post but feelings are like that aren’t they? I say feel, feel every feeling that comes your way, but always keep living…and keep smiling.